People like you love to throw misogyny around to deflect and it’s tired and maddening. We ALL KNOW he’s wrong, but judgments for your reckless selfish behavior can’t be negated by crying misogyny.

And it was your choice to be with and still long for a man that made all the choices you mention as character flaws. If he came back today you would take him back so what’s that say about you? About your internalized misogyny that teaches you that having any man is better than none at all.

Once you knew he had a wife, you were in the wrong. You decided to publicize this story, now take people’s opinions. My opinion is that you shoulder the blame in this instance because you were empowered to make decisions for the types of people you engage with.

And your lack of compassion for the wife is evident and concerning.